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Dating 101: Talking Sex, Monogamy with Dr. Limor Blockman

September 16, 2013 | 7:28 am

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Dr. Limor Blockman

Have you ever noticed when you go out to eat there are always couples and none of them are talking? I went to dinner last week with my son and we were surrounded by couples. Some wearing wedding rings, some not, but as my son and I talked and laughed our way though dinner, the four couples around us hardly spoke at all.

The married couple to the left of me did not speak , not one word, for 20 minutes. The couple sitting behind my son spoke about how good the food was, but that was it. The couple behind me were talking, but they were clearly having an argument, while the couple to my right were both on their phones the entire time.

It got me to thinking about relationships and marriage. A lot of my married friends do not have active sex lives. My single friends are having more sex than my married friends, and also having more sex than my friends in committed relationships. According to my unscientific poll, the key to having great sex is to stay single.

The great thing about marriage is that there is monogamy. Well, one hopes there is monogamy, but you have to wonder since so many marriages include infidelity. If we search for the safety of monogamy, are we kidding ourselves? Is monogamy an unrealistic expectation of any human being? I wanted answers and so I reached out to Dr. Limor Blockman.
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I met Dr. Blockman for lunch and was totally surprised by her. She is a renowned Clinical Sex Counselor, educator, columnist, speaker and author. She holds a PhD in Human Sexuality, a Master’s in Public Health & Community Medicine, and a Bachelor’s in Psychology & Behavioral Sciences. She is soft spoken, warm and kind, with a slight Israeli accent.

Dr. Limor, as she is known, is very articulate. What is so fascinating about her is that she does not look as one would expect. Meeting her reminded me of the line in the movie “Working Girl” where the character Tess says, “I have a head for business and a body for sin.” Blockman looks more like she should work in porn than medicine, which is fantastic.

As we sat together she was admired by all the men, and shot dirty looks by all the women. I imagine it is quite interesting to have a brilliant medical mind in a body that demands to be looked at. People assume she is stupid, which is why she embarked on such an impressive education. She wanted to understand why human beings approach sex like we do.

Dr. :Limor is rather well known in Israel. She has hosted radio and television shows. She is able to view sex through her eyes as a woman, but also through the clinical mind of a doctor. To speak about sex with her is fascinating. The longer we spoke the more I was able to separate out my emotions and listen to her through my mind not my heart.

In speaking about sex and monogamy, Dr. Limor says that a life without passion is empty and sad. Humans are sexual beings and while passion comes in many forms, work and kids for example, touch matters and we are a species that benefits from it. The problem we have is that we often strive for what we are taught we want, not what we really want.

She says Hollywood is to blame for some of that, but also the moral compass that we are assigned as children. Sex is not taught to be a great thing that we can relax and enjoy, but rather as something that comes tied to love and marriage.The blurred line between lust and love causes confusion, particularly for women who are so driven by emotions.

We are taught that sex is to be meaningful and important, but we are not taught to enjoy it. Would love and relationships be more fulfilling if we were able to fulfill our sexual needs as a priority? Do we have a fear of being alone, which makes us forego sexual needs? When sex ends in a relationship, why do people accept no sex before trying to rekindle it?

Dr. Limor says the biggest mistake that women make is to fake it. Fake what? Anything! Don’t fake emotions, or ideas, or orgasms. In terms of emotions, if you are not in love, don’t say it. With ideas, if your partner has an idea or suggestions in terms of sex and you don’t want to do it, don’t. If you are not having an orgasm, teach your partner how to give you one.

Women are blessed with the ability to be orgasmic for long periods of time, and a frequent number of times, so if you are not experiencing it, you need to. Women can be so wound up in what our partners think of us, that we are often not ourselves in bed, not relaxed, and not getting what we want. We spoke a lot about orgasms before we even got to monogamy.

Dr. Limor does not think human beings are monogamous by nature, but rather by choice, and the choice takes a lot of work. Sex also takes a lot of work and the missionary position, with the same partner, over and over again, is not going to cut it. If you want monogamy you need to make sex great. I agree. Sex is a powerful bound and the better it is, the more powerful.

Dr. Limor said that we don’t meet our soul mates, but we do meet people we can make into our soul mates. That was a very interesting statement and while I have thought since I was a little girl that my Beshert was looking for me, how much easier will the search for be if you go into it knowing you can find a person and make them forever, rather than expecting it?

Speaking with Dr. Limor was truly a revelation. She changed how I not only see myself, but how I see her. She is brave and bold, and while I am too, she takes it to a whole other level. I found myself thirsty for her knowledge. I am a woman searching for love and a couple of hours with this woman enlightened me. Perhaps I have been looking for the wrong thing.

I view my romantic life through rose colored glasses, which has been both a blessing a curse. It is a blessing in that I am able to love deeply with trust and faith. It is a curse because when someone breaks your glasses, the shock is often impossible to overcome. I did not expect lunch with a sex therapist to give me such clarity into my heart and soul.

Dr. Limor understands how human beings think in terms of love and sex, and since she reads my blogs, she went into our meeting knowing quite a bit about me. She cut to the chase quickly and without pointing fingers or criticizing my choices, she allowed me to look at my love life and gently suggested that perhaps another path would reap better rewards.

I asked Dr. Limor to describe herself in three words and she chose open, passionate, and adventurous. She is all those things to be sure, but if I were to pick my own three words, they would be smart, warm, and aware. She speaks about love, sex, relationships, and purpose in a way that is not crude or intimating. Her words left me inspired to keep the faith.

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‘This diary is my kief, hashish and opium pipe.This is my drug and my vice’ Anais Nin

Poetic Lechery, Part II

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Dr. Limor Blockman is a renowned clinical sex counselor, educator, columnist, speaker and author. Born and raised in Haifa, Israel Dr. Limor religiously relates her creating and writing explorations and achievements to her origin and her Judaism.

Her explicit erotica, The Smut Diaries, published on many online outlets worldwide, bears a Jewish aspiration, where the heroines all carry a Jewish name and identity, as a big part of their adventurous nature. Dr. Limor’s Smut Diaries incorporates a ‘daily thought’ avenue titled ‘Debauched Pensiveness’ and now ‘Poetic Lechery’, exciting libidinous poems from Dr.Limor’s ‘Treasure Chest’. Dr. Limor holds a PhD in Human Sexuality, a Master’s in Public Health & Community Medicine and a Bachelor’s in Psychology & Behavioral Sciences.

Kindness

When you come ,
I shall embrace you warmly.
When you come,
I will whisper words of sweet endearment in your ear.
When you come,
my heart will start beating swiftly in your arousing quiddity.
When you come,
I will concede to the turmoil between my legs.
When you come,
I will ferry your large hand and submerge it in my wetness.
When you come,
I will dilate and beg for your exquisite paw.
When you come,
I will bite your lips and part them in fervor,
When you cum,
I shall bolt your fusillade in all apertures!

Apprehension

If you love me,
You may caress me to sleep.
If you love me,
You may roam your hands over my flushed skin.
If you love me,
You may gratify my innocent interstices with your insatiable bounty.
If you love me,
You may ravish my very core and exploit it to your fondness.
If you love me,
You may inhume your magic wand deep in my sultriness.
If you love me,
You may breach, invade and ravage my body.
If you love me,
You may aggrandize my expansion to your assail,
If I love you,
I may allow all your mischiefs in my sacred cradle!

Transient

She cogitated about his unfamiliar manhood.
The elixir of an uncharted stimulation,
Amplified her gap,
Emitting her evolving dampness,
To a torrid magnification.
She imagined coming close to him,
Positioning her small hand over his bounty.
It will feel abundant and rigid to her touch.
She would spiral around his zipper,
And enter the sanctity enshrined.
He would gasp and quiver,
Begging for her delicate caress.
She would grant him with her upper lips at first,
Then delight her nadir in his density,
Sating her pulsating oasis,
With his virile allotment!

Effigy

I let you dress me up
Color my lips red,
My eyes raven black.
You prepped my silken shins
And polished my toes
In velvety maroon,
So you can elevate and douse them
In your tongue.
I let you scour my interstices,
In your vigorous,craved handle
And brush my hair to perfection.
I let you dress me in leather and lace,
My bosoms clasped firmly,
In a tight bodice
To your fondness.
I let you denude it all,
In a ravishing flail
So you can subsist it to your liking,
Until I collapse bleary in your granted vertex.

La petite mort

She moved agilely, floating in her slide sandals.
Moving, forward, onward,upward
As a barraged bullet,
Never stopping.
She feared a pause would send her back
To her fears, her worries, her haunted mind.
The sultriness between her legs amplified with every step,
Her erect nipples threatened to tear the delicate fabric
Clasping her petite, yet ample figure,
To the publicly agreeable manner, she craved to captivate.
She could clearly discern the scent of her desire,crawling up from her gap
Crossing her navel, hugging her breasts, her neck, her lips.
She could taste her insatiable hankering,
Getting the best of her, sending her to an exigent ache.
She rushed into the lavatory,
Tearing off her tight attire swiftly.
She reclined calmly in the warm bath,
Surrendering to the feeling,spreading her thighs wide,
In hauling acceptance of the gratifying wetness.
Her fingers circling her sex, the forceful stream heeding her ravenous being,
Until she welcomed that glorious sensation, that ‘raison d’être’
La petite mort.
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I’m going to marry a Jewish woman because I like the idea of getting up Sunday morning and going to the deli.

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Happy Tu B’Av from Jewrotica!

Dear Readers,

Tis the season of love! This week we celebrated Tu B’Av, a modern day of Jewish romance, courtship and matchmaking.

The holiday’s historical roots, as recorded in the Tanach, are a bit less pristine and involve a borderline violent arrangement that diffused tension between the dueling tribes of Benjamin and Levi. But, as time passed, the day was marked with increasing joy and celebration and even the Talmud records the tradition of unmarried Jewish women donning white dresses and dancing in the vineyards.

In the spirit of the holiday, we wish you a marvelous Tu B’Av, offer the following thoughts and invite you to share with us your responses to the question below:

What is true romance and / or what does Tu B’Av mean to you?

Ayo Oppenheimer

The original context of Tu B’Av, as referenced above, speaks to taking a poor situation and working creatively to solve it. Though Tu B’Av is currently framed as a love holiday, it is also about the importance of shalom bayit and it highlights the power of love to mend rivalries between bickering tribes.

As for the first part of the question, true romance is in the small gestures. There is a concept of people having different “love languages”, the ways in which love is expressed and received. I suppose that my love language is action, not speech. True romance is not about flowers or poetry, but about seeing your partner, understanding who they are and taking small and regular actions to cater to their likes and dislikes, bringing small moments of joy. True romance is the culmination of those gestures that say “I know you, I see you and I love you”, thereby making all other words redundant and unnecessary.

David Abitbol – Tech guy

Tu B’Av came about, at least in part, after some pretty horrific circumstances involving attempted rape, death by rape, dismemberment, the near annihilation of the tribe of Benjamin by the other tribes, the utter destruction of the inhabitants of Jabesh Gilead and the rendering of their remaining virgin daughters to the remnants of the Tribe of Benjamin in a process devoid of any notion of consent. This is definitely one of the bloodiest, goriest and most bizarre chapters in the history of the children of Israel – and here we are celebrating it like it’s a Jewish Valentine’s Day, as it is often billed, a Festival of Love.

And yet it is. Tu B’Av was one of the most joyous celebrations. Unmarried maidens would wear white and frolic in the fields in front of unmarried men seeking a wife. And what advice was given to the men? “Young man, lift up your eyes and choose wisely. Don’t look only at physical beauty – look rather at the family – ‘For charm is false, and beauty is vanity. A G-d – fearing woman is the one to be praised…’ (“Mishlei”/Proverbs 31:30)”

So what does this tell us, well… me at least, about true romance? It tells me that love may not always make sense. At its best, it unleashes a mysterious synergistic force that takes two bodies and unites them into one, but that one united entity is possessed of more power than existed prior to the union. It drives us to distraction and inspires both the loftiest sentiments and the basest urges. True romance is a challenge – we are challenged to transcend the obvious and elevate the mundane. We are challenged to seek true beauty and create lasting love. Hopefully we won’t need to massacre or dismember anyone in the process.

A love (or rather, lust) scene in Dirty Di’s latest Holiday Indulgence installment featuring Tu B’Av inspired me to answer this week’s question.

“It is believed that on this day, mystical, enigmatic forces orchestrate lovers to meet,” the mysterious Israeli lover says to the protagonist, Malka, “Love is the ultimate surrender.”

The story also relates that Tu B’Av falls on a full moon. Because the Hebrew calendar is lunar, the full or new moons often mark the holidays (e.g. Rosh Hashanah always falls on a new moon). The moon has mythic, erotic and feminine qualities – and the lunar calendar infuses Judaism with those qualities.

I’ve always been drawn to mystical, enigmatic forces – so I tend to gravitate toward the numinous/astrological/fortuitous when considering relationships past and present (one of my favorite reference books is Gary Goldschneider’s “The Secret Language of Relationships“). These “mystical/enigmatic forces” are often reduced to good timing, rapport, chemistry – whatever you want to call them. But when you really click with someone, when there really is “true romance,” I’d like to believe there’s more at work beneath the surface than simply hitting it off at the right time. Perhaps true romance is a surrender to these forces.

I guess this is a pretty roundabout way of answering the question, but my idea of true romance is something suffused with myth and fate and cosmic forces (true romance also manifests for me when a certain someone tirelessly translates my mystical rambling into something slightly more coherent!).

Leora Flax

True romance happens when the person who you’re with fits into all the parts of your life – when you have an amazing time whether you’re on a romantic getaway or doing the dishes. You respect your partner’s needs in life and it satisfies you to satisfy them.

For me, there’s nothing so intimate or romantic as the feeling that I belong and fit into someone’s life. I sometimes worry that my spirituality makes it harder for me to achieve this sense of mutual belonging. Finding someone who respects my religious choices and wants to celebrate faith in the same ways as me has been really challenging. That’s what makes Tu B’Av important and special to me–I get to celebrate my faith and my love at the same time, and recognize the value of a life where the two can come together.

The meaning of true romance is a great question to ponder! Our culture is constantly telling us through music, advertisements, and movies what “romance” ought to look like, which usually includes a recipe of flowers, chocolate, fine dining, and long walks on the beach. The website dictionary.com actually defines “romance” as a baseless, made-up story, usually full of exaggeration! When we take the time to look beyond superficial romance, we remember that romance is about expressing our affection and our “willingness to sacrifice for one’s beloved,” as stated by Rabbi Michael Gold. To me, true romance is the unwavering emotional bond two people share regardless of their relationship status. So, whether you are single or coupled, on this Tu B’Av, tell the special someone in your life just how much you love them . . . and exactly what you would sacrifice to let them know how much you care!

Dr. Limor

What’s love got to do with it? What’s love but a second hand emotion..

Damn, she was right, Diva Turner, right there… What is our fascination with L’Amour as human beings? Or are we really aware that we are constantly ‘faux pas-ing’ the mere meaning of love with its iniquitous counterpart, also known as Lust?… Oh my!

I think that love, true love, is one that is honestly nourished by all that is good. You may ask ‘what in God’s name does THAT mean now?’ I’ll explain: Love, in its pure nature, should encompass caring, pure caring, with no hidden agendas. And it should be something that clearly can be shared with others, plural, everywhere, at all times. We expect a mother to love all her children equally, but we expect our ‘lover’ to love us only…hypocrisy anyone?

As I mentioned, we all sin to confusing love with lust, when one is infinite and the latter is very limited and in constant need of fueling with the rare resources of novelty and variety.. Gas up, people! I call bullshit!

You can love for eternity, but for God’s sake, stay inspired and…well..thirsty. It is, after all, your joie de vivre, your life nectar. And to simplify things I would say: We should love, not fall in love, because everything that falls gets broken! Happy Tu B’Av, lovers! Kisskiss.

***
Light and Love,
and the Jewrotica Team

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DEAR DR.L-JEWISH JOURNAL

Dear Dr.L,

I feel a bit awkward asking this question, but since it is kept anonymous and I have been curious about this matter for the longest time, I thought I’ll ask: I’m newly married. Me and my hubby are very content with our unit, I’m mentioning it since we are not planning on having children in the near future,nor are we certain that we want them at all, even later in life. we are,however, very interested in experimenting with the whole fantasy of ‘breast feeding’. In short what I am asking: Is it possible for me, given I am not pregnant now,nor was I in the past,to lactate? If so, what would be the best way to stimulate lactation?Also, could it be dangerous in anyway?

Jane

Dear Jane,

Thank you for the terrific question. Let me ease your mind by stating that this isn’t a surprising question and I HAVE received inquiries relating to non traditional lactation,in the past.
In short,it is in fact possible for non-pregnant women to lactate.
Anthropologically, non pregnant women would have the capacity to lactate in case one needed to act as a ‘surrogate mother’ ,feeding an infant whose mother died or was unable to breastfeed. In our era,we come across women who adopt infants for instance and desire to breastfeed thus seeking ways to induce lactation.
Of course, theres the most exciting side of the Goodol’ lactation ,sought after by couples who find breastfeeding erotically exciting
The most successful cases of non biological mothers with inducing lactation,usually include a mixture of hormone therapy and physical stimulation of breasts and nipples.

Here’s a short 101 on lactation just for the basic understanding:
During pregnancy, elevated levels of estrogen, progesterone, and prolactin prepare the breasts for lactation. After delivery,a woman experiences a dramatic decline in estrogen and progesterone levels, but prolactin levels remain high and initiate the onset of lactation. Thus simply, if you don’t go through pregnancy ,taking a daily regimen of hormones will mimic these procedures.
Typically, hormone therapy is discontinued shortly before actual breastfeeding begins. At that point, the baby( your husband that is..suckling the breast will stimulate and maintain milk production.

On going stimulation of the breasts and nipples can also help to produce and maintain milk flow. Some experts suggest pumping both breasts with an electric breast pump every few hours, beginning about two months before you hope to begin breastfeeding. You can also manually stimulate the breasts and nipples (I’m sure your partner will be happy to give you a hand there). Breast stimulation can definitely encourage the production and release of prolactin.

Dangers:
While breastfeeding is a natural process, and one that many women find fulfilling, there are some potential issues that might arise. Breastfeeding can cause plugged ducts, when a milk duct does not drain properly and becomes inflamed, causing a tender lump in the breast. Breast infection may also be an unwelcome result of breastfeeding, and is often characterized by soreness or a lump, in addition to flu like symptoms.
In relation to infections,keep in mind that certain viruses are transferable through breast milk, including HIV & hepatitis
In addition,medications might seep into breast milk, so whatever you put or exists in your body, might pass along to your partner upon consumption…
Whatever you decide to do, enjoy and.. Bon Appetit!

Dear Dr.L,
My girlfriends and I were wondering whether or not there was a difference in a sexual encounter with an uncircumcised man Vs one that has been cut? One of us is currently seeing an uncircumcised man, she hasn’t engaged in full on sex with him yet, but has heard frightening stories regarding uncut men ,infections and such.
Any words of wisdom will come in very handy here!
Rene

Dear Rene,

Thank you for your question! You ladies sound like a group of intelligent and curious women and so I’m sure all will work out just fine:)
In general,Circumcision ,regardless of religion, Is incredibly popular in western society. Roughly 56 percent of American males are circumcised — that makes uncircumcised penises relatively hard to come by:)

The simple difference between a circumcised and uncircumcised penis is a thin layer of skin, the foreskin, which is highly sensitive and surrounds the glans penis like a skin sleeve. When erect, an uncircumcised man’s foreskin generally retracts over the shaft, exposing the head of the penis that you might recognize, as it looks very similar to a circumcised penis:)
During intercourse,fellatio or manual stimulation,the retracted foreskin acts like a lubricant thus making it more manageable ,unlike a circumcised penis, which may need additional lubrication for both partners to experience pleasure.

It’s common that an uncircumcised penis might enclose a distinct odor or taste.
A certain genital smell is normal for men (and women) especially since the foreskin acts like a hub that might indulge you ,but also encompass ‘residue’ of urine,spermatozoa and so forth. If the odor seems overly strong, it may be time to gently suggest taking a shower together:)
It’s also more prevalent for uncircumcised men to encounter an infection under the foreskin; if there are any signs of irritation, redness, foul odor, or other abnormal symptoms, it might be necessary to see a health care provider.
Circumcision can lower the chance of contracting certain sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
Simplifying things, as long as one practices safe sex,a cut or uncut really does not make a big difference, once introduced properly!
And here’s a comic relief ,to remind you ladies to simply try and enjoy it all,rather than analyze anxiously :
An acquaintance of mine (circumcised and all) entertained me ,elaborating about a recent lovely sexual encounter he had with a woman. He proceeded to tell that she was very attractive but not in such command of English, as it took place out of the US ( where circumcision is truly considered a rarity and disabling in a way!it’s all in the context.)
Finalizing their great night together,she turned to him and said:’
You’re my first circus -cised man…
To that he answered: what kinda circus is it baby?… Am I the midget or the giant?…

Have a great Shabat!

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EROTIC POETRY! LE PLAISIR DE LA CHAIR

EROTIC POETRY! LE PLAISIR DE LA CHAIR

It’s hard not to enjoy erotic poetry. Especially when it’s by one of GetLusty’s favorite erotica writers, Dr. Limor Blockman. Do you have a spare moment? Then you should read her beautiful, sexy prose of a post-coitus love affair. You won’t be sorry you did. Dream of your own ending and beginning, or just read it to your lover. Whatever you do–enjoy it, Lusties!

* * *

Resting my head against your chest
Post climax,
Feels good.
You will utter promises of ‘forever and always’,
I will pretend I could!
This is precisely what it seems,
My coveted invader
Le plaisir de la chair,
Not a love affair.
I once explored that litigious notion,
Floating on air for a short while
Has been sublime!
But at the ‘court of broken hearts’
My austere intentions were abrogated
And confined in a dark chamber.
Indulge my mind,
My body,
My soul,
Tonight
And send me off
To my discordant quiddity,
Upon first light!

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Dear Dr.L

July 4, 2013 | 4:36 pm

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Dear Dr.L,

I feel a bit awkward asking this question, but since it is kept anonymous and I have been curious about this matter for the longest time, I thought I’ll ask: I’m newly married. Me and my hubby are very content with our unit, I’m mentioning it since we are not planning on having children in the near future,nor are we certain that we want them at all, even later in life. we are,however, very interested in experimenting with the whole fantasy of ‘breast feeding’. In short what I am asking: Is it possible for me, given I am not pregnant now,nor was I in the past,to lactate? If so, what would be the best way to stimulate lactation?Also, could it be dangerous in anyway?

Jane

Dear Jane,

Thank you for the terrific question. Let me ease your mind by stating that this isn’t a surprising question and I HAVE received inquiries relating to non traditional lactation,in the past.
In short,it is in fact possible for non-pregnant women to lactate.
Anthropologically, non pregnant women would have the capacity to lactate in case one needed to act as a ‘surrogate mother’ ,feeding an infant whose mother died or was unable to breastfeed. In our era,we come across women who adopt infants for instance and desire to breastfeed thus seeking ways to induce lactation.
Of course, theres the most exciting side of the Goodol’ lactation ,sought after by couples who find breastfeeding erotically exciting
The most successful cases of non biological mothers with inducing lactation,usually include a mixture of hormone therapy and physical stimulation of breasts and nipples.

Here’s a short 101 on lactation just for the basic understanding:
During pregnancy, elevated levels of estrogen, progesterone, and prolactin prepare the breasts for lactation. After delivery,a woman experiences a dramatic decline in estrogen and progesterone levels, but prolactin levels remain high and initiate the onset of lactation. Thus simply, if you don’t go through pregnancy ,taking a daily regimen of hormones will mimic these procedures.
Typically, hormone therapy is discontinued shortly before actual breastfeeding begins. At that point, the baby( your husband that is..suckling the breast will stimulate and maintain milk production.

On going stimulation of the breasts and nipples can also help to produce and maintain milk flow. Some experts suggest pumping both breasts with an electric breast pump every few hours, beginning about two months before you hope to begin breastfeeding. You can also manually stimulate the breasts and nipples (I’m sure your partner will be happy to give you a hand there). Breast stimulation can definitely encourage the production and release of prolactin.

Dangers:
While breastfeeding is a natural process, and one that many women find fulfilling, there are some potential issues that might arise. Breastfeeding can cause plugged ducts, when a milk duct does not drain properly and becomes inflamed, causing a tender lump in the breast. Breast infection may also be an unwelcome result of breastfeeding, and is often characterized by soreness or a lump, in addition to flu like symptoms.
In relation to infections,keep in mind that certain viruses are transferable through breast milk, including HIV & hepatitis
In addition,medications might seep into breast milk, so whatever you put or exists in your body, might pass along to your partner upon consumption…
Whatever you decide to do, enjoy and.. Bon Appetit!

Dear Dr.L,
My girlfriends and I were wondering whether or not there was a difference in a sexual encounter with an uncircumcised man Vs one that has been cut? One of us is currently seeing an uncircumcised man, she hasn’t engaged in full on sex with him yet, but has heard frightening stories regarding uncut men ,infections and such.
Any words of wisdom will come in very handy here!
Rene

Dear Rene,

Thank you for your question! You ladies sound like a group of intelligent and curious women and so I’m sure all will work out just fine:)
In general,Circumcision ,regardless of religion, Is incredibly popular in western society. Roughly 56 percent of American males are circumcised — that makes uncircumcised penises relatively hard to come by:)

The simple difference between a circumcised and uncircumcised penis is a thin layer of skin, the foreskin, which is highly sensitive and surrounds the glans penis like a skin sleeve. When erect, an uncircumcised man’s foreskin generally retracts over the shaft, exposing the head of the penis that you might recognize, as it looks very similar to a circumcised penis:)
During intercourse,fellatio or manual stimulation,the retracted foreskin acts like a lubricant thus making it more manageable ,unlike a circumcised penis, which may need additional lubrication for both partners to experience pleasure.

It’s common that an uncircumcised penis might enclose a distinct odor or taste.
A certain genital smell is normal for men (and women) especially since the foreskin acts like a hub that might indulge you ,but also encompass ‘residue’ of urine,spermatozoa and so forth. If the odor seems overly strong, it may be time to gently suggest taking a shower together:)
It’s also more prevalent for uncircumcised men to encounter an infection under the foreskin; if there are any signs of irritation, redness, foul odor, or other abnormal symptoms, it might be necessary to see a health care provider.
Circumcision can lower the chance of contracting certain sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
Simplifying things, as long as one practices safe sex,a cut or uncut really does not make a big difference, once introduced properly!
And here’s a comic relief ,to remind you ladies to simply try and enjoy it all,rather than analyze anxiously :
An acquaintance of mine (circumcised and all) entertained me ,elaborating about a recent lovely sexual encounter he had with a woman. He proceeded to tell that she was very attractive but not in such command of English, as it took place out of the US ( where circumcision is truly considered a rarity and disabling in a way!it’s all in the context.)
Finalizing their great night together,she turned to him and said:’
You’re my first circus -cised man…
To that he answered: what kinda circus is it baby?… Am I the midget or the giant?…

Have a great Shabat!

Dr.Limor Blockman,PhD Sex&Relationship Counselor www.DrLimor.com Doctorlimor@gmail.com

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“וידויים”- המדור הסקסי של ד”ר לימור בלוקמן / פרק שש עשרה

“וידויים”- המדור הסקסי של ד”ר לימור בלוקמן / פרק שש עשרה

“וידויים”- המדור הסקסי של ד”ר לימור בלוקמן / פרק שש עשרה

ד”ר לימור בלוקמן, סקסולוגית בבוורלי הילס

מאירועי השבוע שעבר: תכננתי את שיחת הטלפון המתנצלת, חששתי מכושר השכנוע הבלתי מעורער של אנדריי. נכנסתי אל חדרי והתכוננתי לתנומה קלה שתאפשר לי לילה של מסיבות בעיר שלא נרדמת ,כשהבחנתי במודעה שלכדה את תשומת ליבי,בעיתון סוף השבוע…

“בואו לקבל את השבת בדרשה חגיגית ומודרנית. בית הכנסת הקונסרבטיבי “בית שלום” פותח שעריו למצטרפים חדשים. מחפשים אהבה?זוגיות? קשר לנישואין? מערכת ההיכרויות של בית שלום תשיג לכם את מבוקשכם! כולם מוזמנים” .

לשון ההודעה הפיח בי זיק של חיוניות מחודשת. “זה בדיוק מה שאני צריכה” מלמלתי לעצמי.

חטפתי את העיתון ורצתי במורד המדרגות “דנה, אנחנו הולכות לבית הכנסת!” הצהרתי בהתרגשות.

“על מה את מדברת מותק? אני עייפה, ה

SERVICE

נפתח בעוד שעה בערך ואין לי כוח לרוץ עכשיו”

שיחת הטלפון לאחוזת “האיש והאגדה” אנדריי ,הפכה קלה הרבה יותר לנוכח החלטתי

הנחרצת. “אתה שומע מותק,חברה שלי גוררת אותי כאן לאיזה טקס של יום שישי בבית הכנסת ואני חייבת לה,אני לא יכולה לבטל”

ניסיונותיו של אנדריי לשנות את דעתי ולגרור אותי אל לילה הזוי בבית הפנטזיות הידוע לשמצה, עלו בתוהו.

חודשים לא חשתי אנרגטית כל כך! יוסי ובנו,חברים של דנה ,קבעו להצטרף אלינו למסע אל בית הכנסת, שהיה מרוחק כשעה מביתה. כשהגיעו באיחור של 20 דקות תמימות, זינקתי אל הרכב בחוסר סבלנות מופגנת.

“לאן את ממהרת גברת,יש לך

HOT DATE

שמחכה לך שם?” הלעיט יוסי בשאננות ישראלית.

“אנחנו מאחרים, אם אתה לא זז ,אני נוהגת!”

לא יכולתי להסביר את ההתרגשות שהתחוללה בי. חשתי שאני מאחרת למפגש של חיי! כשהגענו לחניון בית הכנסת, הבנתי שהערכנו את כניסת השבת מאוחר מן השעה האמיתית,טעות שהביאה אותנו לפתח המבנה באיחור “אלגנטי” של שעה וחצי.

דלתות הברזל המהודרות נפתחו בכובד ועוצמה. נכנסנו אל תוך אולם מהודר,בתאום מדויק עם סיום התפילה. מדלתות ההיכל פרץ המון אדם. שמלות מעצבים וחליפות מחויטות הציפו את החדר,חולשים על שולחנות עמוסי כל טוב שהיו מסודרים בקפידה. גבר צעיר בשנות ה30 לחייו ניצב במרכז החדר מוקף במספר לא מבוטל של מתקהלים,הנחתי כי מדובר ברב הקהילה וקרבתי לעברו.

“סליחה,אפשר להפריע ולשאול שאלה”? הסבתי את תשומת ליבו באגרסיביות ישראלית.

“וודאי כן כן,במה אני יכול לסייע”? שאל דניאל בנימוס.הוא הציג עצמו כחזן בית הכנסת שהחליף את הרב, בשל היעדרות נקודתית.

“אני לימור מישראל. אני סטודנטית למיניות האדם בסן פרנסיסקו וכותבת טור על הכרויות וזוגיות לירחון האוניברסיטה. אני בביקור בעיר וראיתי במודעה המקסימה שלכם שאתם מקדמים את נושא האהבה,הנישואין וההיכרויות. מי יכול לספר לי כאן קצת יותר על הנושא הזה?” המונולוג האין סופי שפרץ ממני הצליח להפתיע גם את דניאל.

“עיסוק מעניין יש לך,האמת שאני פחות בקיא בזה אבל בואי ואכיר לך מספר חברים בקהילת בית הכנסת שיוכלו לסייע לך” הוא אחז בידי והוביל אותי בתוך הקהל הרב ,אל הפינה הקיצונית של החדר.

“ג’רי, אני שמח להכיר לך את לימור מישראל,היא… סקסולוגית” לחש בצחקוק.

גבר צעיר בעל פנים ענוגות ועיניים טובות קרב אלי ולחץ את ידי “נעים מאד אני ג׳רי,אחראי על הSINGLES

בבית הכנסת”.

מיהו ג’רי והאם יסייע ללימור במבוקשה? קראו בשבוע הבא..

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Happy Independence Day from Jewrotica!

Happy Independence Day from Jewrotica!

Dear Readers,

Tis the season for freedom! Today we celebrate independence with our American (July 4th), Canadian (July 1st), Israeli (May 14th), Russian (June 12th) and French (July 14th) readers. (Who am I missing? If your country deserves a shout-out, hit me up in the comments!)

In honor of these festivities, we wish you a marvelous independence day, offer the following thoughts and invite you to share with us your responses to the questions below:

How do you celebrate your independence?
How, if at all, does your Jewishness affect your sense of personal freedom in America? Do you ever feel constrained to pursue a certain life while other Americans have more freedom to choose their own lifestyle?
Ayo: During the Passover season, I shared this musing on freedom and relationships. Independence, as viewed through the framework of relationships and interpersonal connection, is tricky. Independence is vital, but can feel empty when not tempered with connection and responsibility. I just finished reading a fascinating book on neuroscience, the limbic brain and the mammalian need for social connection. We may crave total independence at times, but humans are ultimately hard-wired for community and connection.

I would be remiss if I didn’t give a shout-out to Texas Senator Wendy Davis who filibustered on the senate floor for thirteen hours last week while protecting the reproductive rights and freedoms of women throughout the state of Texas. Though I am disinclined from using this platform for political statements, Wendy has certainly reframed freedom and independence for many Texas women who will spend today celebrating the independence of their bodies from the hands of state legislature. On a final (and lighter) note, for those in Austin, I will be found be celebrating a classic July 4th this evening with fireworks, outdoorsy fun and a symphony orchestra concert (sorry, three weeks…) at Auditorium Shores along the water. See you there!

Emma: Having lived in the United States my entire life, it’s difficult to imagine not having the rights I have to live my life in whatever manner I choose – that is, it’s easy to take independence for granted. When I think about the ways in which I celebrate my independence, it really hits me that in many other places in the world (or even in some place in the US), I wouldn’t have the freedom to express myself: it might not be possible for me to be involved with Jewrotica, and I might not be able to write about (let alone publish) anything erotic or esoteric. One way that Jewishness affects my personal freedom is that predominantly Jewish forums have provided me with an outlet for this kind of expression.

Leora: Lately, I’ve been celebrating my independence by choosing my own path to spirituality. Some of the choices I’ve made– over the past year especially–have been unconventional to say the least, and definitely stray from the Judaism I learned from my parents. But I’ve found my own ways to pray, to believe, and to develop a deep, long-lasting bond with the Jewish community. I feel downright patriotic, knowing that I live in a place where I can combine my love of my religion, my love of country, and love of self. I’ve never felt so free or so spiritual ‘til now: now that I am finding my own ways to show my faith and love for God.

David: Ah. Freedom and independence. These are not simple concepts by any means. Often times when we “unburden” ourselves from one set of norms, all we do is bind ourselves to yet another set of norms that end up being as or more oppressive and demanding than the previous norms. As the Who said – Here’s the new boss, same as the old boss. And of course when one studies human nature, it makes perfect sense. There’s a certain comfort and security in bondage – you may not be “free” but you always know what to expect.

For me, true freedom is to be in a constant state of this sublime combination of wonderment and fear – taking a leap of faith, never really knowing exactly what to expect but often coming face to face with pure unadulterated awesomeness. As such, I am humbled and grateful to Hashem for his sublime gift of life and free will and I seek only to serve God while desperately struggling to be worthy of his generosity. That to me is true freedom.

Limor: “How do you celebrate your independence?” Wait..is this euphemism for my promiscuity? Now now…I never I believe that truly celebrating one’s independence encompasses ‘not giving a damn’…is that too harsh? I think not.

Honestly, I can only speak for myself when claiming that all of my life choices from my degrees to my career choices to my lifestyle, my ‘style’, my refusal to surrender to norms, my alternative relationship choices and so forth, represent my constant pursuit of independence.

Society – Western society in particular, that is – tends to utterly adore boxing us into a lovely, suffocating form of..well..something that Good Ol’ society is comfortable with. Now, you can play along and still enjoy an independent, gratifying life. Nonetheless, for the majority of us, these norms or ‘containers’ do not work for us and thus force us into a constant struggle, just in order to get imagesome comfort.

I say NO! I also say: take it upstairs, if you have an issue! ‘HE’ decided on me and mine, and I tend to accept and obey. To HIM! An acquaintance of mine told me she wants a man to ‘unveil the hussy in her’…Mine needs to be restrained & locked away… go figure!

In a nutshell, celebrate your ability to make a choice, live to the fullest and don’t ever regret anything that once made you smile…Happy 4th Y’all!

***
Light and Love,
and the Jewrotica Team

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