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הגודל לא קובע! – סקסולוגיה עם ד”ר לימור בלוקמן

אפשר להירגע: לגודלו של איבר המין הזכרי אין שום קשר לרמת ופוטנציאל ביצועיו במיטה * וגם: כמה מבנות זוגנו מסוגלות להגיע ל”שפיכה נשית?” * שאלות ותשובות

ד”ר לימור בלוקמן, סקסולוגית בבוורלי הילס

ד”ר לימור שלום,

שמי לצורך העניין ירון וכך אני מעדיף להיקרא בתגובתך. אני בחור בן .25 גובהי כ-5.7 פיט ומשקלי 150 פאונדס בערך. לאחרונה התחלתי להרגיש קצת בחוסר ביטחון בנוגע לגודל איבר המין שלי ותהיתי האם מדובר במשהו מנטלי שעובר עלי או באמת בבעיה בעקבות מימדים בעייתיים.

לאחר מדידה שערכתי איבחנתי שגודל האיבר הוא 4.5 אינץ׳’ .האם זהו גודל נורמלי לגילי? האם קיים סיכוי שגודל האיבר ישתנה לחיוב בעתיד, כלומר יתפתח עוד?

המון תודה (וסליחה על הנתונים היבשים של מדדים וכדומה…)

ירון שלום רב ותודה על שאלתך.

אני סמוכה ובטוחה שנושא גודל האיבר עולה במחשבותיהם של גברים רבים. לדעתי רובם ככולם תוהים בענין בשלב כזה או אחר, באם הם מגיעים לכדי מדידה מדויקת, ואם לאו.

איבר המין מגיע לכדי התפתחות מוגמרת בערך בגיל 18. על כן אתחיל ואציין כי קרוב לוודאי הגודל בו ניחנת הוא הגודל שילווה אותך במהלך חייך. אינני בטוחה כיצד ערכת את המדידות המדוברות והאם נערכו בשעת זיקפה; על כל פנים הנתונים היבשים הם שגודלו של איבר ממוצע הוא כ6 אינצ׳ים לערך. איברים קטנים יותר נוטים ׳להתנשא׳ יותר בשעת זיקפה מאיברים גדולים יותר. במילים אחרות – באם האיבר שלך נמדד בכאינץ׳ או שניים פחות משל גבר אחר, בשעת זיקפה קרוב לוודאי שתגיעו לכדי גודל זהה.

למרות מיתוסים כאלה ואחרים או צפייה בתמונות או סרטונים שאינם מייצגים, מרבים האיברים הגבריים קרובים בגודלם בשעת זיקפה, ללא קשר לגנטיקה או גזע. בנוגע למה נורמלי, כפי שציינתי קיים ממוצע וגם בהנחה שאיברך קטן מן הממוצע, יכולתך הביצועית או עצם גבריותך אינן נמדדות בגודל האיבר אלא ביכולת שלך להעניק כמאהב וכגבר. בנוסף קיימת התאמה פיזית בין גברים ונשים ולא כל הנשים הן size queens מה שנקרא…

אני מציעה להתרכז באיכויות הנפלאות שאני בטוחה שקיימות בך ולהימנע מהשוואות והתעסקות מיותרת בנתון מן הסוג הזה, שגם איננו ניתן לשינוי וממילא איננו בעל חשיבות משמעותית כשבאהבה עסקינן!

בהצלחה רבה!

ד”ר לימור שלום רב,

שמי ליטל ואני פונה אליך לאו דווקא בבעיה אלא פשוט בנושא שמעניין אותי ורציתי לדעת יותר עליו גם עבורי וגם בכדי להסביר אותו לבן זוגי כדי שיבין יותר.

הזדמן לי לקרוא על תופעה המכונה שפיכה נשית או female ejaculation.

רציתי לברר על מה מדובר: האם כל אישה מסוגלת להשיג את השפיכה הזו? האם מדובר באמת בשיא חזק יותר מאחרים וממה עשוי הנוזל שמשתחרר? אני שואלת מאחר ושמעתי ממקורות מסוימים שמדובר בשתן ובן הזוג שלי קצת נרתע אבל קראתי במספר מקומות שלא בכך מדובר ומאד הייתי רוצה להתנסות בחוויה הזו.

בציפייה ובתודה מראש!

ליטל שלום רב,

אני מאושרת לקבל שאלה יצירתית וחווייתית מן הסוג הזה שבעצם מחדדת את הענין האנושי/ נשי בארוטיקה חיונית וטובה, לאו דווקא התמודדות עם בעיות אלא חיפוש אחר הנאה וסיפוק, תודה על הענין שלך.

לשאלתך: שפיכה נשית היא אכן תופעה במהלכה משתחרר נוזל מרובה מפתח הנרתיק בשעת אורגזמה נשית. לעיתים החוויה מיוחסת להגדרות כאלה ואחרות ביניהן כינוי בשם ‘squirting’.

מדובר בנושא שנוי במחלוקת מאחר והשפעות פורנוגרפיות ואחרות טוענות כי כל הנשים מגיעות לכדי שפיכה בשעת משגל, נתון שאיננו נכון. התופעה כאמור קיימת ואפשרית עבור מרבית הנשים, אך יחד עם זאת איננה שכיחה ודורשת התוודעות עמוקה עם הגוף ועם היכולת הנרתיקית.

נתונים בנוגע לאחוז הנשים המגיעות לכדי שפיכה נשית קשים להשגה (כמעט כמו התופעה עצמה;) אך ממחקר שנערך בשנות ה90 נמצא כי קרוב ל6% מגיעות לכדי השגה סיסטמטית של השפיכה by demand.

כמות הנוזל המשתחרר משתנה מאישה לאחרת, ישנן נשים המדווחות על הרטבה משמעותית בדומה ל׳ירידת מים׳ לפני לידה ואחרות מדווחות על כמות השוות ערך לחצי כוס מים.

שפיכה נשית איננה שתן, סברה שאכן ליוותה את הנושא עד לשנות ה-80 המאוחרות. גינקולוגים נטו בעבר להתייחס לתופעה בבלבול עם תופעה אחרת המכונה בריחת שתן, חוסר יכולת לשלוט בשלפוחית לאחר לידה, נתון שליווה נשים גם בשעת משגל ובעיקר בשעת אורגזמה כשהנטייה להשתחרר ולא לכווץ סוגרים.

בתחילת שנות ה80 התפרסמו מספר מחקרים וספרים שאישרו כי הנוזל המשתחרר בשעת שפיכה נשית איננו שתן, אלא נוזל מן הבלוטות הדומה לזה המופק בפרוסטטה הגברית. באופן מדויק יותר מדובר בנוזל אלקליני ( לא חומצי) שאינו מכיל קריאטינין כמו בנוזל השתן, הנוזל שקוף ואיננו מכתים בדים גם בשונה משתן. חוקרים טוענים כי הנוזל מכיל סוכרים ועל כן טעמו (למי שמזדמן לטעום) מתקתק.

בתחילת שנות ה2000 הגיעו למסקנה כי הנוזל המופק קרוב לוודאי שמשתחרר מן ה

Skene’s glands, בלוטות קטנטנות המרוכזות סביב השופכת הנשית.

על כל פנים, אכן מדובר באורגזמה עוצמתית יותר וניתן לומר, ׳סוחטת׳ פיזית בעצם נטייתה להידמות לאורגזמה הגברית והשפעתה על הגוף, כלומר כזו המפיקה עייפות, נמנום ותחושת התרוקנות אך גם סיפוק, אדירות.

בכדי להגיע להשגת האורגזמה המדוברת יש להתנסות בעינוג עצמי ארוך ומדוקדק, מה שנקרא; חשוב להישאר אופטימיים ולהניח שבשלב מסוים השיא יגיע ולא להתרכז בהשגתו. ברוב המקרים כשמתעקשים על השגת דבר מסוים הוא חומק מאיתנו. אני מציעה להנות מן הדרך מבלי להתעכב על השגת המטרה…

בהצלחה רבה!

http://israeliweek.com/הגודל-לא-קובע-סקסולוגיה-עם-דר-לימור-בל/

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Dr.FeelGood- Jewish Weekly Review- Australia

Dr.FeelGood- Jewish Weekly Review- Australia

Dear Dr.L,

For the sake of the question I would like to be referred to as Aaron. I am a 25 year old man, about 5.7 and weigh 150 lbs. Lately I have started feeling a bit uncomfortable and a little insecure about the size of my penis. I was wondering if it is just a self judgment or other emotional issue that I have with myself ,or is it truly a problem in light of a size that is smaller than average.

After examining and measuring I realized my size is about 4.5 inches. Is it normal for my age? Is there a chance I will still continue to extend in size in the next few years?

Thank you and sorry for the graphic details.

Dear Aaron,

Thank you for your question. I’m certain that a size related inquiry is a very common cogitation in the minds of many men of all ages,whether these assumptions and pensiveness evolves into an actual measuring or not, is besides the point. The penis arrives at its final measurement around the age of 18 and so it will be fair to assume that there will not be any dramatic change in your size, it will probably be your proportion for life. I am not aware what method did you use in terms of measurement ,how accurate were you and whether these were performed while erect or flaccid, nonetheless a penis average at about 6 inches. Smaller penises tend to extend more while erect, in other words, if you’re an inch or two smaller than the next guy, you’ll probably arrive at the same end result while erect. In spite of different myths in regards to racial,various genetic factors or non representative adult content, most penises arrive at a close size while erect, give or take an inch. In regards to your referral as to ‘what is normal’ I would like to ease your mind and tell you that your masculinity or your ability to perform as a successful lover both do not relate to the size of your penis ,but rather to your ability to be attentive and considerate.

Furthermore, compatibility is a big factor in love making and not every woman is a ‘size queen’ if you will. I suggest you should focus on the important factors and avoid any comparison or frustrations that are not only immutable but rather not important in the ‘game of love’.

Good luck!

Dear Dr.L,

My name is Lillian and I am actually writing to you in a matter that simply intrigues me as sexual knowledge base ,rather than a sexual difficulty or discomfort. I would like to make sure my boyfriend reads your answer as well ,as that will put his mind at ease about the specific matter and will enable us a freer experience. I came across a phenomenon called female ejaculation. I would like to understand what does it entail, if all women can experience it ,is it truly a more intense climax and what does the fluid released compose of. I’m asking since I have heard a few people claiming the fluid released is urine, that made my partner uncomfortable about experimenting, however other sources claimed it wasn’t and that its false to assume that. I would really want to experience it. Thank you!

Dear Lillian,

I’m thrilled to have the opportunity to relate to a recreational inquiry of this sort, emphasizing female sexual interest in good sexuality and the quest of solid sensual experience.

In reply to your question, female ejaculation is indeed an experience that educes the release of an abundant amount of vaginal fluids during female climax. Some sources might relate to this phenomenon as ‘squirting’.

By nature female ejaculation is controversial , as unreliable sources might claim only women that arrive at this point actually climax, while others will claim no women can actually achieve it and even suggest an illusory nature to it. The truth is it does indeed exist and accessible to most women, albeit requiring physical comfortability and familiarity with the female anatomy and such. Data regarding the percentage of women achieving this blissful experience is scarce and hard to obtain (much like the experience itself); nonetheless a study conducted in the late 90s claimed around 6% of women may achieve ejaculation upon self demand. The amount of fluid released alters from one woman to another, some report a great deluge that resembles pre birth water breaking, while others claim the amount equates to half a cup. Female ejaculation is not urine, a false assumption that accompanied the phenomena until late 80s. OBGYNs most likely originated it, mistakingly confusing it with incontinence that might be more prone during climax as the body is relaxed and thus less in control over muscles and secretions.

In mid 80s a few studies suggested that the fluid released is not urine ,but rather an alkaline based substance, containing chemical ingredients similar to those produced by the male prostate – notably PSA (prostate-specific antigen). It is also said to contain two sugars: glucose and fructose.

It is clear and non staining, unlike urine.

Since 2000,Researchers have claimed that the liquid may be the secretion of Skene’s glands (the paraurethral glands),small glands around the female urethra. In any case , female ejaculation is generated out of a more intense orgasm, ‘draining’ in its nature much like the male climax, deducing fatigue and a strong sense of release but also a grand satisfaction. I suggest just enjoying the sensual bliss and avoiding any specific focus on achieving it, mostly when we are too eager to get somewhere ,we lose notice of the road towards it and thus might leave the pleasure on the way unnoticed.

Much luck!

http://www.jwr.net.au/dear-dr-l-4/

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Rachel- Jewrotica Fantasies

Jewrotica Fantasies – Rachel

Rachel is the sixth post in a series of Jewrotica Fantasies. These fantasies, belonging to Jewish women and men, have either been submitted directly to Jewrotica or compiled from certified sex therapists – including our own Dr. Limor – with the permission of the clients involved. Check out our others posts in the Jewrotica Fantasies series: Delilah and Hadassah.

I get my car serviced at this greasy shop downtown. The last time I visited was a few months back to get an oil change. The main guy couldn’t stop staring at my ass, making different racy remarks about my body and offering me coffee and a cigarette.

The receptionist called me to set up my upcoming service, and before I even I realized it, I was daydreaming about this guy, getting all wet and excited, thinking and rethinking what should I wear for my next visit. He was exactly the type my mother always warned me about, right after she found me spread flat on my back at eighteen, indulging in the 20-year-old and ripped Bat Mitzvah coordinator’s gratifying oral pleasure in the venue’s equipment room.

The day finally came. I showed up 15 minutes early. He spotted me from afar, tossing his cigarette and removing his jacket as he walked towards me, flashing his large muscular arms.

“Why hello, Ms. Green, what a pleasure to have you back for service. Will you take that coffee this time?”

I nodded, fascinated by how I quiver by the mere sound of his voice made me quiver.

“Strong and black, right?”

Bewildered, I mumbled “Ah..what?”

“The coffee darling, the coffee,” he smiled and motioned me to follow him without ever really touching me, much to my disappointment.

He led me into the little kitchenette, never removing his eyes from me, stripping me with his piercing gaze, killing me softly.

“So, Ms. Green…”

“Rachel, please…” I murmured flirtatiously.

“Oh, we have advanced to first names… that’s truly exciting….so what how does a beautiful, sexy woman like Rachel entertain herself with on these cold, lonely nights?”

Every remark pushed me closer to the edge. I wished he would just make a move and stick his long tongue down my throat.

The coffee machine disturbed the insanely loud silence in the room. He grabbed a cup and filled it, still looking straight at me, undressing me with his tormenting eyes. I never noticed before how unbelievably sexy he was.

The door to the shop was open, I stared at it, trying to calculate my next move.

He noticed and walked quickly to the entrance, shutting the door slightly…

“I personally enjoy the excitement of possibly being walked in on…”

He pushed me against the sink, lifting my skirt and literally tearing off my thong, sliding his fingers softly, subtly against my very wet pussy.

“I see that little Rachel is ready for me, ha? That’s good baby!”

I stood frozen, consumed by the exceptionally arousing sensation running through my entire body.
He dropped to his knees, spread my lips apart and started covering my pussy and ass with a cool, wet joyride that I had never experienced in my sexual life.

I was aching with desire, passionate and eager to feel his cock splitting my insatiable opening into a million pieces…

“Ms. Green, are you enjoying this? Down here it seems like you truly are. You’re going to squirt right in my mouth today, are you ready?”

His words found the very soft spot of my sleepy G spot, I spread my legs further, and he pushed his fingers into my holes, opening me up like a well appreciated birthday gift.

“Oh God, honey, I’m going to cum!!”

“Oh, I know, baby, just feel it, go with it, cover me up in your warm juices.”

I gasped with desire, pinching my nipples through my blouse, aching as I felt the divine sensation of climax release.

“Oh beautiful…good girl… you know this is just the beginning, right?”

He drank me clean, not a drop is left running down my thighs.

He twisted me over, spreading my legs wide, as he forcefully pushed me on the counter. His trained, educated hands flapped my blouse open, as he penetrated me.

I moaned in awe and aching pleasure, his enormous cock pushing me further against the wall, my breasts finding their way out of my blouse, bouncing rapidly, as if asking to be grabbed.

He didn’t miss the mark, cupping my breasts in his large hands and pinching my nipples.

“Tell me what you like Rachel, tell me how to fuck you better!”

I could hardly breathe, let alone think. I indulged in the insatiably full feeling that his cock kindly provided me with, it was so intense I felt a second orgasm crawling around the corner.

“Are you about to grant me with another? Oh yes, baby, I like that… just take my cock, let your pussy swallow it fully, and plan to take it up your ass next!”

I couldn’t control myself any longer, gasping and panting, welcoming my enchanting orgasm. As I came, he kissed me passionately, adding a wet caress on my clit, intensifying my climax.

“Where on earth did you learn these moves?” I complimented him in true admiration.

“It’s all you honey, I have been fantasizing about fucking you for three years now, every time you visit…”

I stared at his beautiful big eyes, as he slowly carried me off the counter, placing me on my knees.

“I have to see this gorgeous mouth closing around my big cock, I have to see you taste your luscious pussy.”

I took his cock in, the sweet taste of my flavored lip gloss, that I “incidentally” rubbed my clit with prior to my arrival, filled my mouth with a mix of sensations and flavors.

I looked up at him, trying my best to fit his large force of nature in my mouth.

“I love watching you suck my cock baby, your beautiful eyes are literally smiling while you’re stuffing yourself with it…” I realized he hadn’t cum even once – I anticipated the blast of his powerful orgasm.

He moaned and groaned, caressing my hair, slightly pushing my head against his shaft.

“Oh god, you’re good, I knew these lips were promising! I’m not going to cum in your mouth though beautiful, I have to take you up your tight ass…are you almost ready?”

I slowly released his cock from my mouth, obediently allowing him to place his hands on my bottom; I straddled him while he slowly penetrated my ass with his insanely erect cock. I experienced a straining sensation splitting me apart. I gasped, surrendering to the feeling, caressing my clit slowly as he sped his moves inside me.

At this point he was ready to explode and I had become completely comfortable on his cock, pushing my ass down more intensely on his erection and shoving my fingers in my pussy.

“Oh yes baby, finger fuck yourself some more, do your fingers feel my cock inside your ass?”

He panted and gasped, I felt my third, charmed orgasm taking over as we came together in a pool of passionate wetness…

http://jewrotica.org/2013/06/jewrotica-fantasies-rachel/

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Who said SEX is not a religious experience?

http://www.jewishjournal.com/keepingthefaith/item/sex_and_god_hot_and_holy

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“וידויים”- המדור הסקסי של ד”ר לימור בלוקמן / פרק שלוש עשרה

“וידויים”- המדור הסקסי של ד”ר לימור בלוקמן / פרק שלוש עשרה

מאירועי השבוע האחרון:הרגשתי לחלוטין “בבית” לנוכח חביבותה של השותפה לדירה. “אני מתקלחת ואז נראה,טוב?” היא כיוונה אותי אל ארון המגבות.

צנחתי לתוך המיטה הזוגית של דנה. התעוררתי רק כשהיא ליטפה את פניי בדאגה “את בסדר מותק? ישנת המון שעות וחששתי שאולי את לא מרגישה טוב”

התרוממתי לישיבה ונחתתי שוב.כל שריר בגופי כאב,התכווצתי מקור.

“כנראה שאני באמת לא מרגישה משהו,אכפת לך שאני אשאר במיטה?” מלמלתי לעברה. חשתי בחום הגוף מטפס ברעידות בלתי רצוניות.

דנה מיהרה לארון ושלפה ממנו שמיכה עבה נוספת. היא כיסתה אותי עד הצוואר והתיישבה לצידי “בטח שזה בסדר,מה את נורמאלית? יש לך חום מטורף!איזה מזל שאת כאן,אני אטפל בך”.

קדחתי כל הלילה. לפנות בוקר, כשאור עמום חדר מבין התריסים הוונציאנים שעיטרו את חלונות החדר, הרגשתי שנשבר החום וזיעה כיסתה את גופי.

הגחתי מן המיטה החמה,דנה שכבה לצידי נתונה בשינה עמוקה. בדממה סגרתי אחריי את דלת החדר ומיהרתי למקלחת.

ירדתי אל המטבח לחפש אחר קפה מעורר של בוקר, קימברלי ישבה ליד שולחן האוכל,לוגמת קפה פילטר מהביל.

“הכנתי קנקן מלא, את מוזמנת.איך את מרגישה? מאד דאגנו לך אתמול”

“אני בסדר,עבר עלי לילה מיוזע אבל עכשיו אני מרגישה הרבה יותר טוב. אני מניחה שהיום זה כבר לא יום חופש שלך נכון?” שאלתי בחיוך מתנצל.

“לא מותק, היום רגיל אבל כשאחזור לקראת חמש, נוכל לצאת לקניות או מה שיתחשק לך. דנה עובדת עד מאוחר היום לדעתי” סיכמה קימברלי באחריות.

“אני אמתין לך ונעשה משהו,איפה אני יכולה לעשן עם הקפה?”

כשיצאו מפתח הדלת, ריחפתי בדילוגים אל המטבח ומזגתי לעצמי עוד כוס קפה חמימה. שלפתי סיגריה מן החפיסה ויצאתי אל החניה האחורית שקימברלי הפכה לפינת עישון חביבה, עם ספות,שולחן קפה ומאוורר תעשייתי עצום,שהתאמץ להפיג את החום הבלתי אפשרי של העיר המדברית.

תפסתי מקומי על אחת הספות. הבחנתי בחסרונו של הסלולארי שלי אך העדפתי לשבת וליהנות מן השקט. כשסיימתי ללגום מן הקפה ,קמתי וקרבתי אל המאוורר. “אלוהים אדירים, איזה חום מזעזע” סיננתי לעצמי.

סיבוב מהיר של ידית הדלת העגולה שינתה את התנאים ברגע,אני נעולה כאן!

לקחתי נשימה עמוקה וקרבתי אל הדלת בניסיון חילוץ נוסף שעלה בתוהו. דלת הברזל הכבדה שסגרה על החניה הייתה ידנית, קימברלי הייתה היחידה שהצליחה בהזזתה,נזכרתי בשיחתנו מן הערב הקודם. חיפשתי אביזר חד שיסייע לי לנסות ולשבור את המנעול. כחצי שעה מאוחר יותר ,כשאני מכוסה זיעה וחסרת נשימה, החלטתי להלום בדלת הברזל ,בתקווה לסיוע חיצוני. השכונה השקטה בה התגוררה דנה, הפכה לסיוט בלתי אפשרי בבוקר ההוא.

לא נשמע ולו רחש של עגלת תינוקות,מכונית חונה,נביחת כלב או שקשוק הקטנוע של הדוור. השעון על הקיר הראה 9:30. “הן יחזרו הביתה בעוד 8 שעות לפחות,אני לא אחזיק מעמד” מלמלתי לעצמי. קרבתי ונשכבתי אל מול המאוורר, סחרחורת אדירה ותחושת עילפון הלכה וסגרה עלי. עצמתי את עיניי והתפללתי

” אלוהים, אם אני אמורה לצאת מכאן בחיים,בבקשה תן לי סימן..”

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June 6, 2013 | 1:29 pm

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Dear Dr.L,
For the sake of the question I would like to be referred to as Aaron. I am a 25 year old man, about 5.7 and weigh 150 lbs. Lately I have started feeling a bit uncomfortable and a little insecure about the size of my penis. I was wondering if it is just a self judgment or other emotional issue that I have with myself ,or is it truly a problem in light of a size that is smaller than average.
After examining and measuring I realized my size is about 4.5 inches. Is it normal for my age? Is there a chance I will still continue to extend in size in the next few years?
Thank you and sorry for the graphic details.

Dear Aaron,
Thank you for your question. I’m certain that a size related inquiry is a very common cogitation in the minds of many men of all ages,whether these assumptions and pensiveness evolves into an actual measuring or not, is besides the point. The penis arrives at its final measurement around the age of 18 and so it will be fair to assume that there will not be any dramatic change in your size, it will probably be your proportion for life. I am not aware what method did you use in terms of measurement ,how accurate were you and whether these were performed while erect or flaccid, nonetheless a penis average at about 6 inches. Smaller penises tend to extend more while erect, in other words, if you’re an inch or two smaller than the next guy, you’ll probably arrive at the same end result while erect. In spite of different myths in regards to racial,various genetic factors or non representative adult content, most penises arrive at a close size while erect, give or take an inch. In regards to your referral as to ‘what is normal’ I would like to ease your mind and tell you that your masculinity or your ability to perform as a successful lover both do not relate to the size of your penis ,but rather to your ability to be attentive and considerate. Furthermore, compatibility is a big factor in love making and not every woman is a ‘size queen’ if you will. I suggest you should focus on the important factors and avoid any comparison or frustrations that are not only immutable but rather not important in the ‘game of love’.
Good luck!

Dear Dr.L,
My name is Lillian and I am actually writing to you in a matter that simply intrigues me as sexual knowledge base ,rather than a sexual difficulty or discomfort. I would like to make sure my boyfriend reads your answer as well ,as that will put his mind at ease about the specific matter and will enable us a freer experience. I came across a phenomenon called female ejaculation. I would like to understand what does it entail, if all women can experience it ,is it truly a more intense climax and what does the fluid released compose of. I’m asking since I have heard a few people claiming the fluid released is urine, that made my partner uncomfortable about experimenting, however other sources claimed it wasn’t and that its false to assume that. I would really want to experience it. Thank you!

Dear Lillian,
I’m thrilled to have the opportunity to relate to a recreational inquiry of this sort, emphasizing female sexual interest in good sexuality and the quest of solid sensual experience.

In reply to your question, female ejaculation is indeed an experience that educes the release of an abundant amount of vaginal fluids during female climax. Some sources might relate to this phenomenon as ‘squirting’.
By nature female ejaculation is controversial , as unreliable sources might claim only women that arrive at this point actually climax, while others will claim no women can actually achieve it and even suggest an illusory nature to it. The truth is it does indeed exist and accessible to most women, albeit requiring physical comfortability and familiarity with the female anatomy and such. Data regarding the percentage of women achieving this blissful experience is scarce and hard to obtain
( much like the experience itself;) nonetheless a study conducted in the late 90s claimed around 6% of women may achieve ejaculation upon self demand. The amount of fluid released alters from one woman to another, some report a great deluge that resembles pre birth water breaking, while others claim the amount equates to half a cup. Female ejaculation is not urine, a false assumption that accompanied the phenomena until late 80s. OBGYNs most likely originated it ,mistakingly confusing it with incontinence that might be more prone during climax as the body is relaxed and thus less in control over muscles and secretions.
In mid 80s a few studies suggested that the fluid released is not urine ,but rather an alkaline based substance, containing chemical ingredients similar to those produced by the male prostate – notably PSA (prostate-specific antigen). It is also said to contain two sugars: glucose and fructose.
It is clear and non staining, unlike urine.
Since 2000,Researchers have claimed that the liquid may be the secretion of Skene’s glands (the paraurethral glands),small glands around the female urethra. In any case , female ejaculation is generated out of a more intense orgasm, ‘draining’ in its nature much like the male climax, deducing fatigue and a strong sense of release but also a grand satisfaction. I suggest just enjoying the sensual bliss and avoiding any specific focus on achieving it, mostly when we are too eager to get somewhere ,we lose notice of the road towards it and thus might leave the pleasure on the way unnoticed.
Much luck!

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Dear Dr.L ,

Thank you for answering our questions and for caring, I appreciate it!
My name is Ron, I’m 55 and in a traditional relationship with my partner of 20 years. Our relations are pretty frequent and good. Lately I have noticed that on occasion the semen released during climax is very limited. I remember that in the past, during my 20s and 30s ,my ejaculation was more intense and visible. At times I even feel the sensation of a climax but nothing comes out. Is something wrong with me? Should I seek help, is it a risky symptom? Also, I would like to enhance the amount of semen being released if possible, I don’t know how can it be done but if it could ,please tell me how.
Thank you so much!

Dear Ron,
Hello and thank you for your question and kind words.
It’s very common for the amount of semen to slowly reduce with age,the older a man gets, the less sperm he produces and thus ejaculates, for obvious evolutionary and reproductive reasons and such. A few studies indicate that the decline is gradual starting early 20s and all the way to a man’s 80s.
The reason you might have only noticed it currently, is likely due to just that, the gradual reduction that is less noticeable, also, I just assume that you never really took the time to measure it. As to your question,as long as the frequency of your scarce ejaculation is low, there isn’t a reason to be worried, nonetheless should you sense any pain during ejaculation, I would recommend seeing a urologist.
“Orgasmic Anejaculation”, the condition where there is a climax sans an actual semen being released, is not a rare condition either and is mostly related to the use of medication. At times this condition alludes to a different condition called ‘Retrograde Ejaculation’, where semen flows back into the bladder. Your health care provider can evaluate the existence of it via a simple urine sample.
Regarding enhancing the volume of sperm released, unfortunately it isn’t possible to do and quite honestly, if it is not for procreation purposes at this point, is it truly necessary?
Best of luck and good health!

Dr.L hello,
My name is David and I have been in an exclusive relationship for the past ten years. For the last 2 years I have been spending many hours on the Internet ,mostly late at night.
Very often I come to visit chat rooms and sites of a strong sexual content. I happened to engage in quite a few chats with different women, some more frequent some less. I never actually met with any of these women, nonetheless I feel very unease with my actions. I often question my reasoning for it and whether it applies to cheating and break of our established trust. I’m not sure if ‘coming clean’ will benefit my partner or will it be just a selfish act that will clear my conscience but will hurt my partner at the same time. Please help me. Thank you so much.

Dear David,
Thank you for your important question, your honesty and the concern and caring for your partner’s well being!
Studies indicate that SEX is the most searched word online, about 15% of the American population visits pornographic or highly sexual sites during a random search and surf online.
For most, it comes down to just a recreational activity, harmless and entertaining.
Nonetheless,a recent study published in the Journal of Psychology & Behavioral Sciences found that those who spend 11 hours or more a week on Internet sex sites, exhibit clear signs of psychological distress, frequently admitting their online sex pursuits interfere with other aspects of their life.
This possible interference ,might gradually evolve into dependency accompanied by an increasing need for more time devoted to cyber sex.
Regarding your partner and your concern about her feelings and hardship over your nocturnal activity, the specification and definition of ‘cheating’ is a very individual, personal matter for you, her or a third party with whom you might choose to examine this condition. Certain professionals will claim that any extramarital activity should be regarded as cheating, while others will choose a more liberal approach claiming that as long as either partner is not harmed by the other’s activity, no harm can be done, sort of like a’ don’t ask don’t tell’ heterosexual approach
Regardless, most experts will agree that if any cyber sex activity replaces couplehood attachment or mutual pleasuring, it applies to bring hazardous and destructive results to your relationship and should be addressed promptly and openly, in search of more accommodating solution that will satisfy both parties. It’s paramount to state that this situation is broader than the specific definition of cheating, as it can escalate to the ‘abuser’s’ dependency and possibly pursuing an actual physical meeting with a cyber sex friend, what will create an actual carnal ‘infidelity’ if you will.
I recommend surfacing the situation you are dealing with, your partner should be able to appreciate your honesty, openness and genuine interest in finding solutions. I believe you can grow stronger from this experience and find a good settlement for both of you.
Best of luck!

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May 30, 2013

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Dear Dr.L ,

Thank you for answering our questions and for caring, I appreciate it!
My name is Ron, I’m 55 and in a traditional relationship with my partner of 20 years. Our relations are pretty frequent and good. Lately I have noticed that on occasion the semen released during climax is very limited. I remember that in the past, during my 20s and 30s ,my ejaculation was more intense and visible. At times I even feel the sensation of a climax but nothing comes out. Is something wrong with me? Should I seek help, is it a risky symptom? Also, I would like to enhance the amount of semen being released if possible, I don’t know how can it be done but if it could ,please tell me how.
Thank you so much!

Dear Ron,
Hello and thank you for your question and kind words.
It’s very common for the amount of semen to slowly reduce with age,the older a man gets, the less sperm he produces and thus ejaculates, for obvious evolutionary and reproductive reasons and such. A few studies indicate that the decline is gradual starting early 20s and all the way to a man’s 80s.
The reason you might have only noticed it currently, is likely due to just that, the gradual reduction that is less noticeable, also, I just assume that you never really took the time to measure it. As to your question,as long as the frequency of your scarce ejaculation is low, there isn’t a reason to be worried, nonetheless should you sense any pain during ejaculation, I would recommend seeing a urologist.
“Orgasmic Anejaculation”, the condition where there is a climax sans an actual semen being released, is not a rare condition either and is mostly related to the use of medication. At times this condition alludes to a different condition called ‘Retrograde Ejaculation’, where semen flows back into the bladder. Your health care provider can evaluate the existence of it via a simple urine sample.
Regarding enhancing the volume of sperm released, unfortunately it isn’t possible to do and quite honestly, if it is not for procreation purposes at this point, is it truly necessary?
Best of luck and good health!

Dr.L hello,
My name is David and I have been in an exclusive relationship for the past ten years. For the last 2 years I have been spending many hours on the Internet ,mostly late at night.
Very often I come to visit chat rooms and sites of a strong sexual content. I happened to engage in quite a few chats with different women, some more frequent some less. I never actually met with any of these women, nonetheless I feel very unease with my actions. I often question my reasoning for it and whether it applies to cheating and break of our established trust. I’m not sure if ‘coming clean’ will benefit my partner or will it be just a selfish act that will clear my conscience but will hurt my partner at the same time. Please help me. Thank you so much.

Dear David,
Thank you for your important question, your honesty and the concern and caring for your partner’s well being!
Studies indicate that SEX is the most searched word online, about 15% of the American population visits pornographic or highly sexual sites during a random search and surf online.
For most, it comes down to just a recreational activity, harmless and entertaining.
Nonetheless,a recent study published in the Journal of Psychology & Behavioral Sciences found that those who spend 11 hours or more a week on Internet sex sites, exhibit clear signs of psychological distress, frequently admitting their online sex pursuits interfere with other aspects of their life.
This possible interference ,might gradually evolve into dependency accompanied by an increasing need for more time devoted to cyber sex.
Regarding your partner and your concern about her feelings and hardship over your nocturnal activity, the specification and definition of ‘cheating’ is a very individual, personal matter for you, her or a third party with whom you might choose to examine this condition. Certain professionals will claim that any extramarital activity should be regarded as cheating, while others will choose a more liberal approach claiming that as long as either partner is not harmed by the other’s activity, no harm can be done, sort of like a’ don’t ask don’t tell’ heterosexual approach
Regardless, most experts will agree that if any cyber sex activity replaces couplehood attachment or mutual pleasuring, it applies to bring hazardous and destructive results to your relationship and should be addressed promptly and openly, in search of more accommodating solution that will satisfy both parties. It’s paramount to state that this situation is broader than the specific definition of cheating, as it can escalate to the ‘abuser’s’ dependency and possibly pursuing an actual physical meeting with a cyber sex friend, what will create an actual carnal ‘infidelity’ if you will.
I recommend surfacing the situation you are dealing with, your partner should be able to appreciate your honesty, openness and genuine interest in finding solutions. I believe you can grow stronger from this experience and find a good settlement for both of you.
Best of luck!

Dr.Limor Blockman,PhD Sex&Relationship Counselor www.DrLimor.com Doctorlimor@gmail.com

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