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Dr. Limor Blockman, PhD

Clinical Sex Therapist, Relationship & Family Counselor

By Lynn Wexler

Limor Blockman looks more like an exotic Penthouse playmate than the educated, articulate and thoughtful professional her credentials and experience reveal. The renowned clinical sex therapist has a master’s degree in public health and community medicine, and a doctorate in human sexuality. Born in 1977 in Haifa, she served in the Israel Defense Forces and is well known in her homeland for Dr. L’s Love Boutique, and for hosting radio and TV shows on human sexuality. Now based in Los Angeles, she’s been counseling individuals and couples in the U.S. for more than a decade. She has written three bestselling books (in Hebrew) and collaborated on a mobile app that offers steps to a more enhanced and committed relationship. She’s been featured globally on magazine covers, notably as “The Sexy Sexologist.” Her explicit stories and poems on erotica, called The Smut Diaries, are published on many online outlets.

 

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DAVID: Why did you choose human sexuality as your academic and professional focus?

BLOCKMAN: I’ve always been interested in human expression and communication between the sexes. … Why people approach sex as they do and why sex lies at the core of so many relationship problems, particularly in conventional societies, although not to the same degree in Europe as in America.

DAVID: Your approach is bold, entirely uninhibited and, for some, intimidating. Why did you choose this particular path to help people achieve sexual understanding?

BLOCKMAN: I learned early in my studies that I could not tolerate clinical work that concentrated on analyzing the difficult and often grim events in a person’s past and present. I would have pursued anthropology if not for my education and work in the field of human sexual interaction.

DAVID: Are you married and do you have children?

BLOCKMAN: I was married for seven years, now divorced, and helped to raise his child through the teen years. I wasn’t happy or fulfilled, however, in a monogamous relationship. I wanted the white picket fence but it didn’t want me. I don’t believe humans are programmed for monogamy, even though we are free to make monogamous choices. I don’t promote or prescribe sexual lifestyles in my counseling. This is just the right choice for me.

DAVID: Are you ever compared to Dr. Ruth Westheimer?

BLOCKMAN: Not usually. I am the opposite of Dr. Ruth! I would never go to a tattoo artist who did not have tattoos him/herself – and, believe me, I have a few tattoos. Dr. Ruth looks like she never had sex!

DAVID: What is your definition of sexual expression?

BLOCKMAN: Modern Western societies, especially in America, have tied sex to love and marriage, thus repressing any opportunity to experience sex as a great mental, emotional and physically liberating expression of desire, meant to be enjoyed, not stifled, self-conscious and guilt ridden. When you deny what is natural and necessary to human need, problems occur — and sometimes-serious ones. The line between lust and love becomes blurred, causing confusion, particularly for women who are so emotionally driven.

DAVID: What are the most common difficulties people face in their sexual interactions that you witness in your practice?

BLOCKMAN: We are taught that sex is meaningful and important but we are not encouraged to enjoy it. Twenty percent of society lives in sexless relationships. We are sexual creatures. A life and relationship, devoid of satisfying the passions within – not only our sexual passion – is empty and lonely. I don’t tell the people I counsel what to do sexually. I help them to discard old notions that block them from pursuing their own individual expressions of sexuality.

DAVID: Can you share some of the advice you offer?

BLOCKMAN: Sex is a powerful and deeply romantic bond. The stronger the bond between two people, the more satisfying and successful the relationship. If you want monogamy you need to make sex great, and that takes a lot of work. The missionary position, over and over again, is not going to cut it. The demise of any relationship is not recognizing the work that goes into making it a success.

DAVID: What do you recommend?

BLOCKMAN: Your readers should visit my website at www.drlimor.com. I offer readings and opportunities to follow me in many and inspiring ways. But, in brief, no one signed up for celibacy. Feeling desired is 80 percent of fulfillment. For women in particular, don’t fake emotions, ideas or orgasms. You will never be able to achieve bliss, satisfaction or what you want if you fake it. Communicate with your partner. Teach him how to make you happy, and listen in turn to what makes him happy.

 

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